You may have been upset for so long that you don’t even realize that you are still angry. You may be angry because of things that were done to you, maybe even as a child, and you may not even be aware that it still affects you. Although you attempt to be loving, you may still be hard and harsh. I know you love me, but I want you to allow me to do things my way and help you.  Ask for self-control where the need is, so that you may not act against me and displease me. There is a way to be angry and not sin, and that is by making a decision about what you are going to do with your anger before it gets out of control.

My child, you have to respond to conflict with wisdom. When you are wise you will fear me and you will not want to dishonor me with your actions.  You have to think before you speak and work to prevent the consequences of sin.  Be patient with your dealings and learn from me. If I ever reacted to every offense you have done in equal measure, then surely you would have perished. I have shown you mercy and kindness by allowing grace to cover your wrongdoing. Look up to me when you are offended and tell me about it, I will soften your heart and I will help put the situation in check.  With your own strength, you will be vulnerable, but when you rely on me, you have all you need.  Choose to be more disciplined in your response, as you pray every day for the transformation of your mind. I am slow to anger, and it is best if you follow this lead. I am slow to anger because of my love for you, therefore your love for others should motivate you to control your anger and forgive.